Tiny Commitments & Habits That Actually Stick without Burnout
- Jasleni Brito
- Jan 19
- 2 min read
For a long time, I believed consistency was a discipline issue.
If I couldn’t keep up with routines, habits, or goals, I assumed I just wasn’t trying hard enough. That I needed better systems. More willpower. A stricter plan.
What I know now is this:
Consistency isn’t built through pressure. It’s built through safety.
Why Big Commitments Often Fail
Most of us don’t struggle with commitment because we’re lazy or unmotivated. We struggle because the commitments we make don’t account for our nervous systems, our energy, or our real lives.
Big promises sound inspiring, but they often come with hidden expectations:
Do it perfectly
Do it every day
Don’t fall behind
Don’t change your mind
That kind of pressure creates resistance. And resistance is usually a signal, not a flaw.
When the body doesn’t feel safe, it protects itself by shutting down, procrastinating, or avoiding follow-through altogether.
Desire Needs a Bridge, Not a Leap
Earlier this month, I shared how I’m approaching desire differently this year. Instead of chasing outcomes, I’m focusing on the process — on what I want to be doing more of.
Tiny commitments are the bridge between desire and action.
They work because they:
feel achievable
respect your capacity
build trust instead of fear
create momentum without force
A tiny commitment isn’t about lowering standards.
It’s about creating conditions where showing up feels possible.
What Safety-Based Consistency Looks Like
Safety-based consistency asks different questions than hustle culture.
Instead of: “What’s the fastest way to get there?”
It asks: “What’s the smallest step I can take without resentment?”
Instead of: “How do I stay disciplined?”
It asks: “What would help me feel supported enough to begin?”
This might look like:
five minutes of movement instead of an hour-long workout
one paragraph instead of a full page
lighting a candle before meditation instead of committing to a long ritual
organizing one drawer instead of an entire room
Small actions, repeated gently, build confidence. Confidence makes consistency possible.
One Tiny Habit or Commitment to Try This Week
If you’re willing, try this:
Choose one tiny commitment that supports something you desire.
Not something impressive.
Not something that earns gold stars.
Something that feels honest.
Ask yourself:
Can I do this on my worst day?
Does this feel supportive instead of demanding?
Would I still choose this even if no one saw it?
That’s your commitment.
Let it be enough.
Why This Works
Tiny commitments don’t just create habits. They rebuild trust.
Every time you follow through on something that feels safe, your nervous system learns: “I can rely on myself.”
And that trust changes everything.
Desire stops feeling distant.
Action stops feeling forced.
Progress stops feeling like punishment.
An Invitation
This week, try one tiny commitment.
Notice how it feels in your body.
Adjust as needed.
And if you’d like support tuning into what kind of commitment would actually serve you right now, you’re welcome to explore my oracle quiz. It’s a gentle way to check in with the energy you’re working with this season.
Or, if you’re craving deeper support and reflection, you can explore working with me through coaching when the timing feels right.
For now, let small be sacred. Let consistency feel kind.
With love,
Jasleni
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